You forgive them by giving yourself time to heal. This doesn’t happen all at once. This doesn’t happen overnight. It’s a slow progression. You take two steps forward and four steps back. Sometimes it won’t make sense. But you grow a bit stronger, a bit more resilient, every single day. Even if you don’t always see it.
You forgive them by focusing on yourself. Stop pouring your energy into toxicity. You unplug. You unfollow. Practice self-care. Do what you love to do and go out with your best friends, laughing and remembering how good things can be when you surround yourself with positivity. Tell your broken heart it’s okay to take a break – to remember how to smile again.
You forgive them by removing yourself from the situation. The longer you dwell in it, in the heartache, the more it festers. It’s difficult, but you have to leave it alone. Honor your emotions. Honor your feelings. But don’t keep circling back. Don’t keep obsessing over what occurred. Imagine it like a balloon. Let it float away. Tell it goodbye. It can’t hurt you now.
You forgive them by accepting what they did. That doesn’t mean the pain is erased. That doesn’t mean you suddenly think it’s okay or you’ve let them off the hook. It doesn’t mean they aren’t responsible for their actions or that you’ve forgotten what happened. It just means accepting what’s done is done. It means admitting there is no rewind button. You can only move forward.
You forgive them by regaining your life. Because there is so much more than just one person who broke your heart.
This is how you
Forgive the Person
who broke your heart
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Nothing that is truly beautiful in this world happens overnight. So be patient. Be patient with yourself and with your progress. Be gentle to your heart.
Smile because you’re alone and you’re surviving despite that. Smile because you miss him or her, but you still have so much to look forward to. Smile because you’re fighting through the loneliness. Smile because you are moving forward. And sometimes, that’s all anyone can do.
Know that healing is not linear. Know that you won’t always feel like this. That you won’t always feel empty without the love that broke you. Realize that you will one day be okay. And you will one day find love again.
But now is the time to be on your own. Now is the time to cherish yourself. To fall deeply in love with your own heart. And now is the time to adore yourself. Allow yourself to thrive, even when you miss them. Allow yourself to smile and to laugh without them.
Allow yourself to take up space. To take up room. Allow yourself to eat the leftovers and to take the extra spot in bed. Become enamored with yourself. And in return, you’ll realize that you never needed anyone else to be happy.
You just had to learn through loss, that all you needed to have is yourself. And that yes, one day, you won’t feel this sense of emptiness and hurt. And one day, you’ll love being alone. And you won’t feel a tinge of loneliness or heartache. And you’ll smile, remembering the day you thought that day was impossible.
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Healing is
Going
to take Time
After all ,
full Control
You are in
The truth is — sometimes love changes. The truth is, sometimes life gets hard and “I’ll stay” turns into “I have to take care of myself right now.” Sometimes, those who loved us beautifully, cannot continue to do so. And that is okay. You have to understand that there are certain things in life you truly have to let go of. There are certain things in life you cannot control — and the heart of another person is one of them. Either someone chooses you, or they do not. Either someone decides to fight, or they do not. At the end of the day, you have to respect that. But you do not have to let it consume you. See, you may not be able to control the person you loved, but you can control yourself. You can control the way you unapologetically dedicate yourself to loving who you are and what you have to offer. You can control the way you move forward, the way you choose to believe that you are worthy of the love you have continuously put out into the world. You can control the way you choose to believe that all the love your heart has given was enough, and will be enough for the right people. You can control how you grow from the loss. You can control how you survive it. So survive it. You are strong enough to do so.
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